Took a sweet nap after dinner...now I am awake, which I will pay for in the morning, but am gonna take advantage of now. It is time for one of my favorite activities: Parenting by the Consensus of Strangers! And what stranger? Why...you guys, of course:-)
As mentioned, Munchkin has been called up to the varsity soccer team, which I am extremely proud of her for, and which she is super excited about. Traditionally, on or near Halloween, the varsity girls soccer team drives around and throw toilet paper on the houses of the boys on the varsity boys soccer team. All in good fun, and pretty harmless.
Now that she is a member of the team, Munchkin has been invited to go with the girls this weekend to commit said acts of vandalism;-) I have a couple of concerns...
First, it is a lot of driving around...as the kids she goes to school with are scattered around in a bunch of different towns. This would mean riding around in cars with 17 and 18 year old girls all night. I certainly trust the girls, but...well, you know...kids are kids.
Second, I am concerned that there is no firm "plan". I have a feeling that they will end up at someone's house, but I don't know who's, and I don't know where. It could easily be a person that I don't know, and possibly someone she doesn't know. I am a little worried that they could end up at a friend of a friend's house, and she may know nobody but the couple of girls she is with. And, since they are all 17 or 18, they could easily get distracted.
So...my instinct is probably to not let her go. I doubt she will be totally heartbroken, but she certainly would like to go if she could.
Thoughts...?
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
To TP or Not
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Totally agree!!! Too young for that this year.
This is tough...I know that I would want to go, and I would be upset if I couldn't go, but I definitely understand your concerns. I've never been in your shoes, so I can't decide what I would do or make any good suggestions! Sorry!
I'd say hold off. She'll have four years to participate in that stuff soon enough.
I was a very active TPer in high school. We lacked other activities in Iowa. Haha. But I'd say it's the same as prom - it's sort of loses its luster by senior year (when it is supposed to be A HUGE EXCITING THING) if you have gone to four proms before that.
This isn't a one time shot for her and it'll be far more fun for her when senior year comes around if she hasn't already done it a bunch!
Really, I think that's the only reason I would hold off. I TPed a house for the first time when I was eight and every year thereafter. I see nothing wrong with TP!
I'd wait for Freshman year. I don't have a child that age, but that is what I think I would do. However, if she knew where they would end up at the end of the night, then I might reconsider. I really don't know, tough one.
My instinct says no too.
What if you let her go for a little while and then pick her up at a decent hour from a friends house?
Then she isn't out all night with the older girls, but still gets to have some of the fun?
I too, was a TP'er in middle school... harmless teenage fun but the "after party" is what I would be concerned about.
I think you can find a compromise, Munchkin is a good (GREAT) kid!
~Allison
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I almost got arrested once TPing on private property. Perhaps the wee one should stay in and watch some spooky movies instead this year.
I like the idea of picking her up at a specific time somewhere but that might make it a bit obvious that she's the youngin'and possibly cause unneccesary awkwardness. Maybe suggest it and see what she thinks?
Although. . .if she's playing varsity this year, she'll most definitely have plenty of opportunity to TP houses over the next 4 years!! If you're hesitating I'd keep her home!
I say no, not yet. She has just joined the team, so she can say she had previously made plans to save face.
There's enough time later on for all of that, especially the part of riding around in cars with inexperienced drivers doing the driving.
One caveat...make sure she has good alternative plans, either at your place or the fake relatives or a reliable friend....
Yikes, I guess I'd have to say let her sit this year out and go next year.
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