In the spirit of election season, we are gonna have our very own episode of "You decide!!!" here in AM-Land.
First scenario...Sunday dinner at Smoking Hot Roommate's place. She cooked (noteworthy in itself:-P) and me, The Boy and the girls and Munchkin, Papa Bear, Big Sis and the Brain Surgeon and little baby EH all went over to join her and the Rocket Scientist. Lots and lots of Italian food...spaghetti and meatballs and garlic bread and chicken parm and stuffed peppers and lots of goodies. Very well done:-)
So, she and Big Sis and I were in the dining room, I was setting the table and Big Sis was pouring everyone wine. She stopped at Munchkin's spot and asked "Does she get some?"
And...well, let's get your take on this. Fifteen years old, family dinner, is it appropriate for her to have a half a glass of wine with dinner with everyone?
Second scenarios...Christmas break is coming up, and Munchkin has some scheduling trouble. Last year, Frenchie came for about a week before Christmas, and she took her annual Fantabulous Winter Trip with her friend's family right after (the trip on which she met Frenchie two years ago...two years!!!). This year, however, it doesn't look like Frenchie can come before Christmas (or that she can go there)...which means that she may need to choose between her annual vacation with her friends' family, or a visit with the boyfriend.
Anyone care to guess what she is leaning towards?
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
You decide!
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I say that a SMALL glass of wine is appropriate. We do sparkling grape juice at our house (literally, we always have some) and the kids prefer it. It likely helps that there are multiple 'little kids' so they don't exactly feel left out. But a small glass of wine is harmless, in my opinion.
I would bet she is leaning towards a trip with her friends, truthfully. And she doesn't know how to say that to Frenchie. But I could be wrong. Regardless, I don't think either is earth shattering as long as she approaches the situation appropriately and makes sure not to hurt either party's feelings.
I would vote no to the wine. I think she already sounds like she is treated (although she most likely deserves it) as though she is older than her age. But, she is still a kid. Giving her TOO much freedom could lead to more instances of disappointment for you such as her driving the car to the grocery store.
I think in this kind of situation a small glass of wine is totally fine. I was always allowed one (mixed with water when I was a wee one)and honestly? Alcohol was never a big deal to me. I am Italian though, so a little biased on this one. ;-)
The trip is a hard one, normally I would say the friend trip is more important and a tradition, yadda, yadda but Munchkin is so mature for her age I think it could go either way. Can't believe it's been 2 years, though!!!
I say a small glass of wine is ok, and I would probably spike it with fruit juice as well. But I would only let her do that on an evening where she wouldn't be going anywhere else or driving at all.
As for the vacation, has she thought about seeing if Frenchie can go to the vacation spot instead of coming to see her?
I vote no to the glass of wine. What's the rush? Part of my hesitancy is because it's against the law, and I don't see a great reason to break this one or to contribute to the notion that laws don't matter simply because that attitude could get her in trouble (although I know she's mature --she's still a child who needs guidance ). I'm curious to know what you decide. Btw, do you know if she even likes wine?
Small glass of wine doesn't seem like a big deal to me. . .I'm sure she probably has had some in Europe (as it's as part of daily living as brusing your teeth in some parts) I think small exposure helps tone down over zealous curiosity later in life (ie college). She's smart! She knows it's illegal for her to have it and I also believe she probably knows its a privledge to be having some!
I think it would be easier to arrange a different visit with Frenchie another time- so the family/friend trip should trump!
I say yes to the wine and guessing France for vacation?
And, I didn't think drinking was illegal as long as it was under parental supervision on your own property, and, you know, make sure they're not overdoing it... I thought I heard that somewhere..
yup - you're allowed to give her a glass.. hell, Munchkin is allowed to drink in Mass "on alcohol-selling premises with parental consent". (If I read that correctly...)
http://drinkingage.procon.org/view.resource.php?resourceID=002591
my first thought is no to the wine. I agree with Ally-what's the rush? She's a "kid" and still should be treated and act like one. I know she's super mature and acts older than most adults but still...
I'm guessing she's going to France. :)
We were always allowed a drink with our parents from about the age of 13/14. Not loads but a glass would be offered. I never liked the taste of it so I always declined ;)
Given that I am officially European now, my answer to the wine is obvious mais oui! Shame she has to choose between Frenchie and Friends. That really is too bad.
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