Tuesday, January 12, 2010

What color, exactly, is "Badd"?

Let's talk about sex! More specifically, let's talk about the complications of doing it with a giant extra part of your sticking out of where your stomach usually is, and all kinds of weird hormones floating around. I know I have at least three other pregnant readers, and a whole bunch of Moms, so I expect to get some feedback on this...

First, I have found my sex drive to be pretty much unaffected. I get tired more easily, so in that sense it has waned, but it hasn't gone away entirely, or gone raging off the charts, either. It seems to have been pretty much the same as it always was. I guess, maybe. I am a little surprised that I don't feel any less sexy...I had figured that I would feel bloated and gross and not quite like my little sexpot-self, but that hasn't been the case at all.

I think part of that is due to the weird, sort of foreign-ness of it all. While it is clearly my tummy, it sorta feels like it is not? I am not sure I can really explain it...but I definitely don't feel like "my stomach is huge" so much as "I have this weird stomach thing attached to me." I don't really feel much less sexy, at least not around The Boy, which has been a pleasant surprise.

There is one difference, though...I feel less slutty. Sometimes, and I am sure you can all relate, you just feel a little sluttier than usual. It may manifest itself in saying dirtier than normal things, or doing different things than you may normally do, or in more unusual locations...but there are just times that you feel like the inner porn star needs to get a little air time (I will spare you the details in this forum, but I can elaborate outside of this if you need some ideas:-P). There has definitely been a whole lot less of that, and I really think it is because of some psychological acknowledgment that I want to be more respectable in front of the kids:-P. They can't see or hear me, but they know...

Second, the logistics are getting difficult! I can't lay on my stomach, I am much less flexible, and I can't really lay on my back for too long, either:-). I have always orgasmed fastest and most often from being on top...and that has become kind of unworkable, as it gets a little tough to really get down to all of the really good grinding with a giant belly in the way:-) To counteract that, we have been making better and more use of some of the goodies in my closet...which I am totally OK with... I will come right out and say that I would be one miserable bitch these days if I didn't own a vibrator.

Third, there is at least one advantage to being pregnant...Boobs!!! My boobs are, by my standard, huge. In regular woman terms, that means that I actually have boobs, that they provide an actual filling-out of clothing, and that they carry with them some actual volume. This is a new phenomenon for me, and has been quite fun to get used to. Sure they will shrivel up and go away when this is all over, but I am enjoying them while I have them. They can really be quite useful:-)

In summary, it's been different, and there are some challenges, but I haven't found it to be a huge downer on my sex life...it is pretty easy to work around:-).

Anyone else?

14 comments:

Exgf said...

Just an idea - but how's laying on your side?

There are some fun positions being on your side that may help the no stomach - no back issue!

Accidentally Me said...

Exgf - That is a pretty comfortable way to do it. It was sort of always a favorite of mine even before I was pregnant, and it is even better now!

A said...

Well, well. Isn't this post tame and respectable! ;)

laurwilk said...

Hahaha. Your sex posts always crack me up! I am happy that you (and The Boy) are enjoying the big(ish) boobs! Personally I'm jealous of the super long hair.

Our Happy Married Life... said...

you make me giggle! :) hope you don't mind the shout out on my blog today.

Irene said...

Well, I usually favor the "doggie style" which became a little uncomfortable after a while with the big belly (my belly was HUGE towards the end during both pregnancies) hanging down. So we would pile up blankets and pillows in the middle of the bed and I would lay my belly on them. Really comfortable.

What I found kinda disturbing during the last few weeks was the fact, that the babys wouldn't stop moving during the time we had sex. It's the weirdest feeling if someone moves arounnd in your belly while you have sex. It made me stop sometimes because I just felt too weird.

HappyascanB said...

Okay, I know I'm not as far along as you (I'm 16 weeks), but I can definitely tell you I could take or leave sex. My poor husband has to beg and plead for it! I just couldn't care less! And usually it's simply because once I'm still, I'm sound asleep.

The boobs are a major perk. My hubby is telling me all the time how awesome my "tremendous boobs" are. I warn him that tremendous isn't really a compliment to me. And when something the size of a raisin is sucking off of my boobs that are the size of watermelons, he may not ever want my boobs near him again!! :) Ha!!

Pregnancy. . . fun times!! I wouldn't trade it for the world!!!

Rachel H. said...

We've had out struggles too...it's hard to find a comfortable position, and it's just not the same. I agree that I don't feel any less sexy, but it's just so different.

Lisa said...

wow, so many comments!
Since I haven't been pregnant no tips from my side.

Though one question arises:

how come does laurwilk know about your long hair? Has she seen pics I haven't? Jealous me..

Accidentally Me said...

Looks like Laurwilk has outed me on my sending of pictures to people...but yes, I do sometimes send pictures to people via email. And I am way cooler via gChat!!! I'm just saying...

Lisa said...

Why, I never knew ;-)
So If I were to leave my email adress, let's say: mail@lisa-prosch.de , I might even get that wedding-pic I've been speculating about for so long? Amazing

steffi2282 said...

Oh,... if Lisa is getting this wedding picture I am as well dying to see - can I get it too please. :-)
You have my mail-address.
Please!!!

Katie said...

Oh I want to see a wedding picture too! And prego pics!!

Windy City Kelley's said...

Yeah, we're still trying to figure this out too. I think by the time we do I'll have had the baby and be back to normal. By the way, I feel ya on the fake stomach bit. I always forget I've got the belly until I look in the mirror and remember just how big I actually am!