Wednesday, May 16, 2007

7th Grade Plans

Sorry to be late in the day with this...I know how so many people wait anxiously every morning for me to post:-P Truth be told I have been super busy all morning and yada, yada, yada...

Anyway, I have my last story from last weekend for you. Why does it seem that every time I go back home I end up with like a week's worth of stuff to post? Probably a good idea that I moved...

As I mentioned, Munchkin stayed with her brother this time. Those of you who have been with me for a while know that her brother and I have a decent, but somewhat complex, relationship. I have gotten past the part where he sued me, but I haven't totally forgotten it;-) But Munchkin loves him, and I don't really have any reason to doubt that he has only the best intentions with her. He wants to be a part of her life and goes out of his way to do so. In that sense, I guess I am sort of stuck with him.

A ways back, he had raised the prospect of her coming out to stay with him and his fiance for a couple of weeks. I wasn't totally comfortable with that, but we settled on her going there for a week, and then her brother, future sister-in-law and maybe a cousin of theirs coming out here to go to the beach for a week after that. That seemed to work out real well for everyone.

So, the subject came up over the weekend. Additionally, we talked about the fact that they are pretty close to buying a house. And then, out of nowhere came this bombshell from her brother "The new house is in a great school district. Munchkin could even move out here for an entire school year in a few years if she wants."

Say what?

I mean...is he fucking serious?!? Well, yes, he is serious, which is the problem. And, he is just being an asshole, because if he seriously wanted to do that and thought he was relieving me of some burden, he would have asked me and not mentioned it with Munchkin around. But that is not what the weasel wanted...he was hoping that Munchkin would think it such a great idea that I would either have to acquiesce or be the total bitch who told her no.

But it is just basically a stupid idea. She had to switch schools last year, and doing it again for a year just for shits and giggles is just a really stupid idea. Not that she would have any trouble adjusting, but there is no reason for her to do so. None of this even gets to the quality of the respective schools. Anyway, I don't even know why I am wasting finger-energy to type out a rational response.

Fortunately, Munchkin wasn't a huge fan of the idea anyway. I think should would enjoy it and would like the chance to see her brother more often, but she likes where she is, loves her school and wouldn't want to be away from her friends just to do it.

Still, the whole thing...in my words from Monday...made me want to "drive a wooden stake through his skull".

11 comments:

nicole d. said...

I think you are smart to not trust him 100%. Just wondering if you have legal custody of Munchkin...you do, don't you?

Accidentally Me said...

Nicole - I don't know if I would say I don't "trust" him...mostly I just don't like him. And I guess I am maybe a little suspicious that he still has some intention of "stealing her away" but I don't really think so. And yes, I am her sole guardian...but I have not adopted her, nor do I think I will.

Accidentally Me said...

er...not sure that answered the question..."Yes, I have legal custody"

ella said...

Just out of curiosity - does he get some sort of financial incentive if she stays with him?

Accidentally Me said...

Ella - Nothing special. He could claim her as a dependant and get the tax break, and there are probably some state stipends he would qualify for, but it wouldn't be as much as it costs to keep her, I don't think. I thought about that, but I don't think there is any incentive for him othr than just liking her (and maybe irritating me.)

Trixie said...

that was sneaky of him especially to mention it in front of munchkin before talking it over with you.

Scott said...

The fact that he said something in front of her without talking to you about it first says a lot about how he is..

Ally said...

Interesting. I am a bit surprised. I thought that you guys were finally on the same page. Oh well, I'm glad Munchkin isn't interested, and I think the family, friends, and stability she has in Boston is priceless.

Still just me said...

My God! He sounds a little like my ex-husband.

Things like that should never be brought up in front of Munchkin.

allbilly said...

Well, do you think he actually intentionally was trying to undermine you with the comment or was he just so excited it "jumped out"?

I'd like to think he means well, and if he has a family network there he might think it is better for her or something...who knows.

Did you ask him in private later if topics like that could be discussed between adults before the press conference?

Accidentally Me said...

Billy - I think it was intentional, but it is possible that he was just excited. And I do think he means well...there is nothing "in it" for him other than really wanting to be around her. And I like the press conference line...I may have to steal that one.