A Kept Woman

Interesting comments from everyone yesterday. I intentionally did not approve any of them until really late in the day because I didn't want people's opinions to sway each other. Opinions were all over the place, and focused on totally different things...which was sort of expected, there is a lot going on.

First, there is the question of moving in after 9 months, which some people have an issue with (GLB, Double-A, Ally), and some think is plenty of time (Povosgirl, Kate, Brookem, Ruby). Really, I think it depends on how big a deal you think moving in together is. I don't really think it's a huge, earth-shattering thing, so I feel like 9 months is enough for the right people. If it doesn't work out, well...you just move.

And then there is the age difference. A couple of people felt like it might be a real issue (Scott, GLB), most felt like it is a factor, but not a deal-breaker (k.d., Brookem, Ruby). I am in the latter camp...it is hard to be that far apart, but it is not something that can't be overcome. He is something of a young 40, and she is an old 24, so I really don't think that the age difference, on its own, is something to be overly concerned with.

And I don't question their affection for each other. I don't think she likes him only because he makes a lot of money, and I don't think he likes her just because she looks great in a sun dress. They genuinely have a great time together. And some people speculated that maybe deep down I didn't like him or question his motives (ella, Trixie, Scott, GLB) or hers (Jordan)...but that is not the case, I like him very much, and I like them together.

So what's the issue? Well...in truth it is a combination of the above. My problem, the more I think about it, is that they are at completely different life stages, and she is really "exposing" herself by moving in. What do I mean by this? Well, I don't think she is in it for the great apartment, the beach house and the Lexus SUV, but it is also impossible to separate those things out.

She is really adapting her life to his much more than the other way around. The only problem is that if things don't work out...she immediately has to "leave" that world. A break-up would be compounded for her because she lives in his house(s), drives his car, etc. (Part of this is her personality...which I can't really explain for some reason...)

So, I don't think this is a dysfunctional or ill-conceived relationship. I feel like it is fundamentally sound and is built for the long haul. But...we all know that shit happens, and she is putting herself in the position of being a "kept" woman. Now, if things start to sour, how much would she be willing to suffer before she totally tore up her life and moved on?

Anyway, that is my two cents worth...the next question is...do I say anything? I think it is basically none of my business, so I will likely keep my mouth shut...

[And yes, I get the irony of this entire post, no need to point it out]

Other than that, not much going on. Thursday Chicken Fingers were delicious as always:-) I may be going away this weekend, so I may not be blogging...kind of up in the air...Enjoy!