Thursday, February 14, 2008

Valentine's Day

Ah...Valentine's Day. No other day, ostensibly dedicated to love, creates the kind of vitriolic hatred that this one does. The intensity of emotions always amazes me...all you are supposed to do is admire love for the day, but for some reason it has become a day about reminding girls that they don't have boyfriends.

And not the other way around...this is one more in a long series of cultural traditions that demean women by forcing them to be identified not by their talents, skills and positive traits, but by their relationships with men. Seriously, being "approved" by a boyfriend does not really increase your value as a human being. Sure, you get laid more, but it doesn't make you better than all of my super-fabulous friends who are totally single.

OK, that rant is done with. I kinda like Valentine's Day...mostly because it is a reason for people to buy me flowers:-D. I don't feel the need to go out and do something, but I do like getting cards and doing nice things for people I love. The Boy was such a big fan of his cookie delivery last year that he is getting more this year. Hopefully they deliver them before he reads this:-D. Our romantic Valentine's Day dinner is gonna be chicken fingers with Munchkin...I can think of nothing better!

Hopefully he got me something, too, or else he will seriously be in the doghouse!!! And it is not too late...flowers will do just fine:-). I checked with Munchkin's brother to see if he sent her flowers again, and he did. If he hadn't, I would have, just so long as she gets something. So she will get her flowers delivered to her at school today, which she just thinks is the greatest thing ever. I know I pick on her brother a lot, and we have clearly had our issues, but he is absolutely crazy about his little sister, and he does some really sweet things for her. So, he is not all bad.

So, I guess my message is...lay off the hatred of Valentine's Day. As long as you don't feel the pressure to have a teary, dramatic moment straight out of a cheesy romantic comedy...it should be a pretty nice day. If you don't wanna love someone else, love yourself:-).

(Wait...that sounds really dirty...hmm...but I am OK with that...both meaning are totally acceptable...)

7 comments:

boohoo said...

this is only my 2nd valentines day with being with someone. i always thought valentines day was for single people anyway, for them to tell someone they liked them. since being with my boyfriend i just use it as an excuse to spoil him. we're pretty mushy most days so today is not much different hehe ;)

Douglas said...

I think my take on Valentine's Day clearly represents the male perspective.

ella said...

WHAT?!? No Project Runway spoiler this time? I had read somewhere that Sweet P did show at Bryant Park. Maybe some drama ensued and Jillian finally had a nervous breakdown.

Anonymous said...

I am a bit ambivilent about the whole thing - that is until I get something special which I did this morning:)

Anonymous said...

i love v day - with or without a boy. I always treat myself to something decadent, as i am my favorite person.

Clearlykels said...

I'm all about loving myself-- and I don't mean in the dirty way-- I decided this morning that today was the perfect day for a pedicure. So, that is how I'm celebrating my Valentine's day!

Aaron said...

I think the only difference between men/women on Singles Awareness Day is that women visibly let their emotions show, where single guys just shrug it off and pretend they don't care.