Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Full Disclosure

Good morning, peeps! It is still morning, but about 40 minutes...I tell ya, this work nonsense is really cramping my blogging!!! Wassup with that? Aren't I supposed to be overpaid just to sit here and look cute? Why am I...like...doing stuff?

BS, I tell ya!!!

Anyway, I have sort of an issue today. The Body, one of my very dearest friends, is kinda angry with me. Not like super pissed, but she is mad, and that bothers me. (Incidentally, when I call her "The Body", I mean that this is the closest approximation I have ever seen of someone that is built like her).

So, here is the story. It involves a boy that we both went to school with that she dated for about a year after college (I have blogged about this). I don't think I ever gave him a name, but given his adorable red hair, I will call him Opie for now...hee hee.

Opie is a total sweetheart. He is super cute, really nice, really funny and has been a great friend for a long time. It is entirely possible that I hooked up with him a few times in college, which is really not a big deal. I hooked up with most of my guy friends in college at some point...and most of them hooked up with my friends, too. In fact, any time I mention any two people from college, chances are that they hooked up at least once...lol.

Anyway, maybe three weeks before we graduated, Opie confessed to me that he had always had a little bit of a crush on me. This was not like a super heart-felt "I love you and I always want to be with you" moment, it was just him admitting a really cute puppy-dog crush. That was kind of the end of it, though...it wasn't like he was asking me to be with him or anything.

I am not sure if I thought that I told The Body this or not. I know I told Smoking Hot Roommate, and I guess that I sort of figured I told the rest of them, too. But apparently I didn't. And then I sort of forgot about it...

So, fast forward to a while later...The Body moved back to Phoenix, and she and Opie began dating. This, if you recall, was one of my favorite things ever...lol. I love them both, and love them both together, and I thought that this was just totally awesome. But alas, it didn't work out and they broke up...sad:-(.

This past Saturday, SHR was talking to The Body, and casually mentioned something about Opie's long-time ago confession to me, assuming she was fully aware of all of this. Whether I never told her, or she forgot (or was so loaded at the time that she didn't notice...c'mon, we were three weeks from graduating!), she didn't know. And was none to happy about it.

So, I talked to her Sunday, and she was really upset. I think that maybe she is thinking that this was a bigger deal than it was...that there was a lot more emotion involved than there really was. But she was mad that I never told her when they started dating, and said that it made her feel like kind of a fool that we all had this secret we kept from her. I feel like she is really mis-representing what went on, but I understand why she would be upset...

And it really never even dawned on me to tell her. I sort of thought I already had, and I also had sort of forgotten...it just didn't seem like anything worth telling. But, I can certainly see why it bothers her.

So, anyway, that's my pickle:-(

11 comments:

laurwilk said...

I think you'll just have to give this one a bit of time. It'll all blow over. Maybe there's that whole 'jealousy' word coming into play? (Not that I know ANYTHING about that.)

Ally said...

Are women who are naturally built like that allowed to complain about anything? Ha. Just kidding. I totally see how this happened. Because it was so minor it wasn't something you ever rushed to tell her and then at some point you didn't realize it had never been mentioned (b/c it never went anywhere). I'm sure this will blow over. I'd apologize, explain, and then let her come around (not that you asked)....

jojo said...

Ew. Misunderstandings among friends are never fun. Especially if they involve men. You'll probably have to end up apologizing even though you didn't do anything wrong. Ah, the things we do for friendship. :)

erin said...

I agree with Laurwilk, just give it a little time. You weren't trying to be sneaky or do anything subversive. Hopefully she'll realize you didn't keep it from her on purpose, and it'll all smooth over in time.

And on a completely different subject... How's the wedding planning going? You haven't mentioned anything about it in a while!

Amy said...

Disagreements are never fun with friends! What sucks even more is that you didn't purposely keep it from her but even if you did, it's not real cool to tell a FRIEND that "hey i'm glad you are dating Opie but did I ever mention the fact that he had a crush on ME first?" Either way she should look at it like you were trying to protect her feelings. I know you weren't trying to keep it from her but I'd look at it like that if I was her...It will blow over...good luck!

Aaron said...

So... everyone has slept with everyone else and somebody has a problem with it? NAH...

Rachel H. said...

I think we all have similar situations at times with friends. It's never good but it's difficult to remember things and make sure that you are taking all necessary precautions. It's bound to happen at some time.

Princess Extraordinaire said...

She's probably just stung a little and will get over it with a little TLC and time - I knwo you didn't mean anything by not telling her but she may feel like the odd man out here so again, give her time..

Ys said...

This is why friends mixing boyfriends is never a good thing. I can see why she'd get upset/feel like a fool but that's only cos she hasn't properly heard your version of the event. I'm very sure she'll feel much better when you put her mind at ease :)

Accidentally Me said...

Aaron - Oh, it's not the hooking up that bothers her...she always knew about that. It was his admitting to having a crush on me and her not knowing...

Ine Oroh said...

Icky ... I hate having my friend(s) mad at me (who doesn't?).
But, as said by laurwilk it'll blow over.
Had a kinda same experience but I don't thing we handled it the right way, we ended up not speaking with each other for years now. Hope this didn't happens to u & The Body tho', it sucks :(

But funny thing is the boy in question is still close friends with both of us.