And another question

Florida was awesome...although we landed in a bit of a snow squall yesterday, which made for a pretty rocky approach. I have had a really good run of flying luck lately, so I guess I was due for a rough flight. Ahh well...no one got sick, so it was all good.

We really did pretty much nothing. Sat on the beach, and on the deck at the house. We ate tons of bad food and drank a lot and just basically hung out. Munchkin caught up with a girl that she is friendly with from down there (she met her one of the other times we have been down there), so she and the friend she brought kinda disappeared with that girl and her friends for a while, which was good. And really, that was kind of about it...great to get out of the cold for a bit!

Lots of good input from Thursday's bridesmaid questions, and some really good ideas. The one thing I think I was most surprised with was the response to the idea of his sisters. First off, I love Jenica' idea of ignoring gender lines and letting people stand up for whoever they fit best with. We had actually discussed that, and while I don't know if we are really going to go forward with it, that might actually accomplish a couple of things...more on this tomorrow maybe.

I was surprised that there were so many people who felt like I should leave them out, though. Especially Twin Sister...because truthfully, I would feel really weird if she wasn't in the wedding somehow. It would be totally inappropriate to leave her out.

But I am totally on board with the idea of giving people other things to do. I doubt we will get married in a church (I think we are going to talk to his Mom about it...neither he not I particularly care, but it may be something that is important to her, and I would gladly do it if it really matters that much to her) so there won't really be scripture, but there will be something. I don't know exactly yet. There is also a thing you are allowed to do in Massachusetts that I think is kind of neat and may take advantage of (and now, it's not the right to marry someone of the same sex:-P)

So, I am pretty sure that we have worked all of this out. But...I am not going to tell you until later this week:-P The Boy and I have to make sure we are set on what we want to do, and then I have a couple of phone calls to make, and then I will tell you all:-) Should be a couple of days.

However, I have one more question... And this, if I am going to be perfectly honest, is something that I first wondered about right after I learned what a wedding was. In other words, for like 20 years. The question is...who am I going to walk down the aisle with? I gave up any hope that it would be my own father by...oh, I dunno, maybe age 10 or so...and have sort of though about this at various times throughout my life. I know, kinda random, but whatever.

And again, there are a couple of people that I can think of. I have written at length about my issues with my family growing up, but there is actually someone that I have always held in the highest regard, and who was as much of a male influence as I ever had as a little kid: my mother's oldest brother. He is still pretty much my favorite family member, and while I wouldn't say that we are super-duper close, he is family and is someone that I have always counted on to be the reasonable and responsible member of the family.

Second would be Papa Bear. He is not my father, but he has certainly treated me like a daughter. This might be one small way to convey exactly how appreciative I am to him and his two daughters for all that they do for me and for Munchkin.

Third would be Munchkin:-) No rules against that! And that is kind of appropriate on a couple of levels.

Fourth...BFFb. As I have mentioned a bunch of times, he holds a really special place in my heart. For a variety of reasons and due to a bunch of different things, I have a bond with him that I just don't think I could have with anyone else (and no, we never hooked up:-P). We have been through a lot of shit and I give him a bulk of the credit for getting us through it.

And finally, I don't have to walk down the aisle with anyone. If the role is traditionally reserved for a parent and caretaker who is "giving his daughter away", well then there is really no one more appropriate than myself to do that.

So there is one more question to chew on... And to be honest, once I decide these things...I am pretty much all set. Well, I have to get a dress, too. But the rest if pretty much decided:-) I told you...I am not gonna fret over this stuff!